When was the last time that you looked into the mirror and said something nice to the person you saw in the reflection? I sometimes wonder what the world would be like if there were no handmade mirrors and, the only reflections we saw were in the eyes and faces of those we love and who love us. I bet that would stop us from looking for what is "wrong" with us; shifting our focus from what the eyes see to what the heart offers.
Our life's journey takes us down many different roads often detouring us from ourselves. We sometimes forget that we are all human beings designed with imperfections. We may even be more supportive and encouraging to friends and relatives than to our precious selves. Our selves who long to hear those words of encouragement and support. Is it any wonder that we feel so bad when we have been so neglected?
I'm sure that we have all tried do the "right" things. You know, go to the right schools, meet the right people, get the right job, marry the right person. Society often seduces us into believing that if we do all of the "right" things then we will be happy and successful. Many of us at midlife have experienced that we can do all of the "right" things and still wake up each day unhappy with who and where we are in life. We understand in a very personal way that what makes one person happy and successful is not always right for us.
To live an authentic life requires patience and quiet time for inner reflection. You must be willing to step off the treadmill you've been running on and set some time aside for yourself. It may only be 15 minutes each morning or before going to bed at night. The important thing is that you begin to make yourself a priority.
Enjoy how good it feels to be the most important person in your life. After all, without you there is nothing.
In this quiet space you may even find a new path, one of your own making, and one that just might lead you back to yourself.
Don't wait for someday. Begin now.